Are you in the process of a divorce?
Divorce hurts, whether or not you're the one pushing for dissolution of the marriage.
The pain of a divorce doesn't just come from the prospect of losing someone you loved. The hard reality of dealing with a shuttered future and a broken family will add to the pain.
The process of divorce is even more challenging when you have a job to keep. Your employer might be empathetic enough to give you some time off, but soon you will be back to work, and they will expect nothing short of a proper shift.
How do you maintain a healthy work-life balance? Here are a couple of divorce tips to keep you productive at work and in other aspects of your life.
Embrace Your Situation
Until one has been through a divorce, it's difficult to really grasp the extent of the trauma. Feelings of anger, frustration, fear, resentment, betrayal, hatred pull a seat in your heart. So being told to embrace the situation rarely makes sense.
But here is the thing, your life really has to move on, however sluggish the pace. Plus, if it's of any relief, you're not alone. At least 800,000 couples untie the knot every year.
Importantly, if you fail to get a grip on the situation, your performance at work could dip. The last thing you want is a performance review or, worse, a suspension or dismissal notice.
Seek an Alternative Work Schedule
Trying to work out an alternative work schedule with your supervisor or boss isn't a farfetched idea. After all, employers are loving the benefits of offering flexible work schedules to their employees.
There is a catch, though. This means coming clean with your boss. This might be a difficult thing to do, especially if you're a closely-guarded person or your boss is the kind of person who doesn't give two hoots about romantic relationships.
Nonetheless, a flexible work schedule, like one that allows you to work from home 2-3 days a week, will take the pressure of interacting with colleagues -- when all you want is to be alone -- off your back.
Take Leave, but Not so Fast
If you have an unused vacation leave, this is the time you could want to take it and deal with divorce. Don't.
Remember, it's usually darkest just before dawn. Taking leave too early into the divorce could mean you return to work before you have made considerable emotional progress or even before the process has ended.
It's best to keep working and then take leave when the worst is behind you. You'll come back stronger and ready to conquer.
Find a Shoulder to Lean On
For most, work is usually a welcome shelter from the storm that's their broken marriage.
And when you get home, you come face to face with the loneliness, the failed dream. Don't suffer in silence. Find a support system.
You could move in with your parents, a sibling or a bosom buddy. This should be someone who brings out the best in you, motivates you to eat healthily, and keep fit. If there are support groups for divorcees in your area, join one.
Get a Family Lawyer
Whether you're going through a fault or no-fault divorce, lawyering up is essential.
The right family lawyer will take care of most aspects of the marriage dissolution, ensuring a smoother process. Your lawyer can also turn out to be more than a lawyer... a confidant, a shoulder to lean on.
Put These Divorce Tips to Use
In fairy tales, happily ever afters are the norm. But nobody promised us fairy tales.
In the real world, marriages do come apart. And when yours does, these divorce tips will help you maintain a healthy work-life balance. Put them use and keep returning to our blog for more work-life tips.